Many ways to have sex

There are almost an infinite number of ways to have sex, and people are turned on by different things. What’s important is that only you can decide what feels good for you, and what kind of sex you want to have. We go through a few sex terms on this page.

Masturbation

Masturbation means having sex with yourself, for example by touching your genitals or other parts of the body. Some people only want to have sex with themselves, and others like having sex with partners. Masturbation is a great way to explore your body and find out what you like and find pleasurable. If you know what you like, you can let the people you have sex with know, if you want to! It’s common to start thinking about sex and masturbating more during puberty. That’s completely normal and a good way to get to know your body.

Petting

Petting means touching and stimulating places on your body in ways that are sexually arousing. For example, your genitals, breasts, lips, or neck. Petting yourself is called masturbation. You can also engage in petting with other people.

Oral sex

Oral sex (giving head, going down on someone) is having sex with your mouth, for example by sucking, licking, or kissing the genitals or around the genitals. A lot of people think it’s pleasurable to touch or stimulate for example the clitoris, glans (head of the penis), or the anus. Sex tends to feel better if the areas that are stimulated are wet or moist, so stimulating by sucking or licking can feel really good.

Intercourse

Intercours is when a dick or sex toy is inserted in a cunt or anus. For intercourse to feel good, the cunt or anus needs to be both wet and slippery. There are fluids produced in the cunt when you’re horny, and they help make it wetter. But you might have to use extra lube (lubrication) to make it feel good. If you have anal intercourse, you likely need lube for it to be pleasurable.

If a person with a dick has an orgasm and ejaculates during intercourse, and semen makes its way into the cunt of the other person, it can make them pregnant.

Anal sex

Anal sex means inserting something in the anus for pleasure, or touching, petting or kissing the area around the anus. It can feel good since there are plenty of nerve endings around the anus, making it sensitive.

Read more about ways of having sex and what to think about at Umo and RFSU. (In Swedish)

Text av Line Janson, Förenade tjej-, trans- och ungdomsjourer

Translation by Dannie Milve, Förenade tjej-, trans- och ungdomsjourer